How to find your soulmate

Many people have found their soulmate and are now happy. However, many others are still not lucky yet and you might be one of them still wondering when and how to find your soulmate.
It is important to note that, a soulmate will not simply appear out of the blue and declare that they are your soulmate and that you can now live happily ever after. You will have to do some things that will set the circumstances where you will meet. Outlined below are a few ideas on how to find your soulmate.

Be Attractive

Being attractive shouldn’t only be on the outside but your personality too should be part of your attraction. It is probably time that you had a different look; work on your attitude and manners if they need some brushing up. Always seek a second opinion from honest friends who will tell you the truth on whether your new look is great and honestly point out your personality flaws for you to improve later on. The soulmate needs to single you out and you should help them out by appearing attractive to get their attention. You might be surprised, they might be nearer than you imagined and have never noticed you because you aren’t attracting them.

Go Out There and date

Your soulmate is unlikely to come and find you within the confines of your home or your office unless your work involves outside interaction. You therefore need to start going out by attending parties, functions, concerts, reunions and so on to increase your chances of meeting them. Give potentials who want to date you a chance, often times dating a person for some time is what is required to establish if they are your soulmate or not. In most cases you never know instantly, so a few tries here and there are advised.

Give Online Dating A go

Countless people have found their soulmates at online dating sites. Going this route is not a bad idea at all. Ensure that you go for genuine sites and that your profile describes you in an interesting way that is attractive. Upload your best photos, the ones that accentuate your attractiveness. Give as much information about yourself as possible and make it entertaining to read through for anyone who does. You could also reach out to online people who you think sound like potential soulmates and send them interesting messages that will elicit a response.
However, ensure that everything you say is true and don’t lie, as much as it is tempting to do so. You will ignite distrust on people who are potential dates once they find out you lied, something that is a definite relationship killer. You don’t want your soulmate walking away because they distrust you. Lastly on online dating, ensure that you observe all the safety precautions as you meet new dates to avoid a date gone awry scenario.

Do A regular Analysis

If you have been at the searching phase for some time, it is time to do some analysis and honestly single out the mistakes you are probably doing to avoid repeating them. Avoid abusive and repeat relationships that aren’t working. Also, your expectations of what your soulmate should be like might be too unrealistic and are keeping your soulmate away because you are disregarding anyone falling short. Analyze your dating habits and find out where you go wrong in order to improve your chances.
Lastly, maintain a positive attitude as you stay focused and exercise patience in your quest for a soulmate. A positive attitude reflects on the outside and is one of the major attractions.

5 tips that will help you handle back pain

A vast majority of the world population suffers from back pains at some point in their lives. This affects their daily life and activities. Back pain is a blanket statement because symptoms stem from different health conditions for example Sciatica. Therefore back pain can be handled using the following ways:

1. Maintaining good posture

There is a sense in which the manner in which we go about our daily activities can cause unnecessary stress on a person’s back. Little things often add up and become big and complicated issues. It is in this respect that at times the strain causing pain may go for many years unnoticed till the very day that they may pop-up after attending a gym session. This is a warning that everyone should ensure that they keep the right amount of curvature so that they can relieve the body nerves thereby reducing back pains. for that reason you can buy a posture corrector.

2. Get comfortable shoes

So much depends on a pair of shoes. Proper footwear can do much more than protect against cold and moisture. It can maintain proper walking and stability. Damage to walking and stability can cause not only orthopedic problems such as foot pain, back, neck and spinal problems, but also digestive problems, menstrual cramps, urinary tract infections, infertility and other problems.

As our feet step on the ground as we walk or run, billions of sensors on the foot pass information to the brain. With the help of the information, the brain determines the shape of our walking and posture, which best fits the surface conditions. Because footwear is a kind of “alternative ground” for us, it affects the way we walk and posture. Therefore, it is of utmost importance to choose the correct footwear.

3. Seek the assistance from a specialist

People should make it their personal responsibility to seek the help of a trained professional for example an orthopedic so that together they can devise a working individualized exercise plan. One need not rocket science or magic in a bid to address the body’s back pain, the right approach is a must-have. The specialist can help by recommending both stretching and improving flexibility or taking the patient through core strengthening. Therefore, handling of the back pain should be left to specialists who understand back care, for example, a chiropractor who will help a patient in having the right plan for exercise. Here are more details on

4. Change sleeping position and limit bed rest

Too much of sleep does more harm than good to the human body. Research and extensive studies have shown that being active immunizes one from short-term low back pains compared to those who sleep more often. Other professionals have also argued that more than three days bed-rest should be avoided by patients and they should be active more often than not. In addition, if one cannot sleep soundly, they should try out a different sleeping position, for example, a reclining position. This position reduced back pain stress.

5. Use of inversion table

There are dozens of exercise that can be done using the inversion table so that one can ease back pains, for example, intermittent inversion, decompression, rotation, low back stretch and overhead stretch. When these exercises are done routinely, lower back muscles will be provided with deep stretch which works a great deal in relieving the back pains. Moreover, there are three levels which earmark these exercises; light, moderate and high. During the exercise, the mind should be relaxed and focused on the sensations which are experienced in the course of the exercise. You can only listen to your body if you quit your mind as you do the exercises. To find the best inversion tables I personally recommend or

6. Taking a long hot bath

Bodily aches and pains can be eased when one takes a long hot bath. The long and hot bath cannot be underestimated because it often has a soothing effect on the body thus relieving pains and body aches. The human muscles can stretch further and relax well when one has taken a long and hot shower thereby allowing more stretching of the body.

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Enjoying life and planning for a bright future

My kids are already fine human beings

Many parents have the goals of guiding their children to be happy and productive adults. Those are my goals too, though I think that we shouldn’t parent only for the future, but also for the present. Children are not people in training; they are people right here, right now.

My children are happy and productive kids, who are free to be themselves and free to express themselves, right now. What we do right now affects the future in very large ways. Respecting the kids I have now, and not only the adults they will one day be, is the most important long-term parenting goal I can have.

Critical thinking, acknowledging one’s intuition, caring more about personal safety than being rude, and following one’s heart –those are the values that I care most about instilling in my kids. But as a parent, it is important to me to realize children are not playdough for us to mold, but people with personalities and opinions who need our help to navigate the world and to learn about its joys and evils.

My kids amaze me every day, but never in ways that I expected. Just like they have so much to learn about the world, I have so much to learn from them. My children deserve to remain the happy, free, and thriving people that they currently are. Which brings me to the biggest puzzle I have the task of solving this year.

Meeting educational needs

This year, my task is figuring out the best educational solution for my children, since my firstborn will reach the age at which education becomes compulsory next year. School starts later in our country of residence than it does in many countries, so we have been homeschooling in accordance with the kids’ abilities and interests. My daughter is thriving and, unlike mom, is a math whiz.

Homeschooling is working for us. I want to keep it up. The alternative is entering into a poor educational system, with the very real prospect of discrimination on ethnic grounds and because I am a single parent. But homeschooling is, in fact, illegal where we live. I certainly have the duty to meet my kids’ educational needs, but I want to continue homeschooling while also not breaking the law. Tricky stuff!

Besides the appallingly bad school options here, there is this other thing. I am twice exceptional, which refers to being both gifted and having a special need. I have known about the special need – in my case dyscalculia, which is numerical dyslexia – for longer than I have known about my IQ.

I was tested for a job many years ago, but only in the past year (more specifically since finding this wonderful organization, SENG – Supporting Emotional Needs of the Gifted) that I realized that being gifted has affected my life profoundly.

Giftedness is a word that really doesn’t do people who have this “problem” any justice – it sounds all braggy, right? Being gifted affects so much more than achievements in the academic sphere, and it is a whole-person phenomenon that changes the way a person fits into society. 

As a child, I received many labels that made me feel worthless and that were in hindsight related to giftedness. They included odd, possibly autistic, possibly crazy, lazy, a trouble maker, and someone with social problems (After all, wanting to hang out with adults to talk about politics as a kid is not normal! Well, actually, it is, when those people are at your intellectual level.)

Being more aware of what giftedness entails now, I am determined to help my children avoid the hurt and rejection that accompanied a high IQ for me. They have not been tested, but I know both are gited. Yes, “coming out” as gifted is tricky, and applying the label to one’s children perhaps even more so. I do think we have the right to acknowledge who we are. It doesn’t mean we think we’re superior; just that the gifted do not need to feel inferior.

Helping my children remain the unique, wonderful human beings that they are involves much more than parenting skills, unfortunately. It also involves making the right decisions in terms of where we live while they are children. During childhood, we help our kids create the basis which they will build on for the rest of their lives. The culture by which we are surrounded daily matters. The education they receivematters. The way we feel while we are children matters. Unfortunately, the ideal solutions are not always available to us.

Making peace with this country, and opening up opportunities where they don’t yet exist in terms of homeschooling, or moving away – those are the questions we’ll deal with this year. It will be an important year that will shape the rest of our lives.

Parents matter!

I’ve put my traumas in the closet for a little too long, thinking denying their existence would make them go away. But the year behind me has been one of healing from past trauma and learning to accept myself. That overdue journey resulted in positive changes in my family, and since I started to heal, I realized thathappy and emotionally healthy parents are the basis for emotionally healthy and happy children.

Just like one in three other women, I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I also have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from work-related trauma. And now, I am able to write this down and publish it on the web and not feel ashamed in the least. Being raped was not my fault, and I can now finally feel that.

Trauma has affected my parenting in many ways – in ways that I can See only now that I am beginning to acknowledge what happened and to accept myself. Only now that I feel so much better about myself can I truly be a present and active parent, who is genuinely and emotionally involved in my children, rather than doing everything on autopilot.

Now that I can feel joy, true joy, I feel my children’s smiles instead of just seeing them. Now that I canfeel, period, I am better equipped to deal with my children’s joy, anger, sadness… I am no longer a “natural parenting” robot, doing all the “right” things, like babywearing constantly, nursing on demand, and responding to their every cry promptly. Now, when I respond to my children’s cries (now that they’re older, those most happen when they are fighting over toys!), I actually feel something.

It is amazing! I hope that the kids have not suffered much from being parented by my trauma-denial self, who needed to lock away those darn feelings just to be able to get through the day. Back when my daughter was born, I just wasn’t ready to deal with it all. After starting my healing journey, I am thankful to be truly present as a parent to my children, a friend to my friends, and a human being, now, even though being able to experience feelings again obviously opened the door to feeling pain and sorrow too.

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How to use cosmetics to cure your blackheads

When we talk about treatment Roaccutane can not ignore the attitude to this drug in cosmetic salons. Unlike other treatment methods, trainers do not deny the benefits of treatment Roaccutane and the results he offers. However, treatment Roaccutane treatment is considered so aggressive that even the most liberal cosmetic salons, can not afford to ignore. To understand the importance, his recognition elements that make Roaccutane treatment, and to internalize why it comes so dangerous drug, read e-book Moore Institute Clinic, a free downloadable.

All you need to know about Roaccutane treatment and its consequences

Using a combination of articles and studies on all the ways to treat acne, especially the treatment Roaccutane, the book brings all the data it should be recognized. People who suffer from acne tend to ask their doctor for treatment Roaccutane, mainly because they can not stand the aesthetic defect and want to get rid of it quickly. Moore Institute’s School Clinic, a free downloadable, spanning the reader the benefits of treatment Roaccutane but also the cons, and offers him choose his own. That among other things can be learned through treatment Roaccutane occur in the short term side effects such as dry skin, dandruff hair and even nosebleeds.

In the long run however can be even more severely degraded, such as liver dysfunction. Roaccutane treatment requires users a way of life is limited, and prohibits the exposure to the sun, drinking alcohol and certain foods. Because the focus of treatment Roaccutane is vitamin A, is also forbidden to pregnant women. In fact, some studies, which appear in the book, have shown clearly that Roaccutane treatment can also cause depression. If teens thought their changing moods is a side effect of growing up, did information about Roaccutane treatment, and that can be proved that also other circumstances.

Why teenagers seek treatment Roaccutane doctor?

The fact that young people are those who prefer Roaccutane treatment with immediate results over other treatments, resulted in a car cosmetics felt the need to bring to light all the information you want. In practice, the right acne treatment requires a long-term process. Roaccutane treatment, however, ignores these variables, focusing on current wounds evasion. With the cessation of production of fat cells disappear Although acne, but are more serious consequences. In addition, treatment Roaccutane does not stop the formation of lesions in the long run. Despite the length of treatment Roaccutane is only 4 months, final way to get rid of the wounds, and keep the face clean after a long period involving a larger effort. Today, many cosmetic salons offer customers ways without treatment Roaccutane, tailored specifically to each. Roaccutane treatment ignores the fact that there are different levels of acne and cosmetic consultation with the Institute that you will no longer ignore.

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Alexandria’s Genesis – The real facts behind it

When an individual is born having Alexandria’s Genesis, at birth, their eyes will appear gray or blue in color. Subsequent to six months of their birth, their eyes will start changing from their original color to a purple color, and this process will continue for another six months. At the time of puberty, the color of the eyes of these people will be deepened to a deep purple, dark purple, violet-blue, or a royal purple and will stay in that manner. However, by no means, these color changes in the eyes will affect the eyesight of a person. People having Alexandria’s Genesis will never develop any hair on their body, face, public, anus, ears, nose, eyelashes, eyebrows, and on their head. Women who undergo this mutation will be fertile, but they will not menstruate.

These are the beliefs that go around the public. However, a major question is whether the Alexandria’s Genesis currently exists or not. To know the answer, read this article further.

A legend has swept across the web that a person of uncommon genetic change that confers extraordinary beauty and faultlessness upon a fortunate recipient. The mutation called Alexandria’s genesis is considered to have emerged in the ancient Egypt. Many people are in doubt that whether this is true, but, in fact, the short answer is “No”. Here is the legend that is available on the Internet. You can also see it in the length of the dog heat, which simulates the same effect.

The opening recorded case of Alexandria’s genesis was a female, named Alexandria Augustine during 1329 in London. On identifying her most distinctive purple eyes feature, her parents decided that she should be possessed and take Alexandria to a pastor, to get her free from the odd characteristic. Luckily, the pastor had heard about the mutation earlier, and convinced the parents that nothing was erroneous with their daughter. Consistent with myth, following a flash of light over Egypt, some thousand years ago, the individuals with purple eyes and extremely fair skin had emerged only to wane north and were lost until Alexandria Augustine showed up.

The long reply is that Alexandria’s genesis was generated by a novice writer around the turn of the 20th century to give good reason for the appearance of people with purple eyes in the literature. By no means, the writer intended it to be considered as a real fact, or even a real legend, but some naive starry-eyed people misunderstood it and started multiplying it online. Nowadays, there are individuals, persuaded that the Alexandria’s genesis exists in reality and that those who speak otherwise are narrow-minded and they are a shill for the plot. If you need a more biological-based description why Alexandria’s genesis is unfeasible, here is the breakdown for the nonexistence and the impossibility of the existence of Alexandria’s genesis.

Violet eyes

Violet eyes are technically probable by means of a severe deficiency of eye pigmentation. However, violet eyes are very sensitive to sunlight, a feature that would not be extremely pleasant to have in sunlit Egypt.

No body hair

It is believable, a kind of Androgen insensitivity disorder, which can cause deficiency in facial and body hair. However, this occurs in people, having both X and Y chromosomes. Those who have this Androgen insensitivity syndrome will be female bodies in nature, and they cannot give birth to a child due to the lack of uteri. This fact totally contradicts the idea that people having Alexandria’s genesis are fertile.

No menstruation, but fertile

It is not possible in nature because many organisms experience an estrous cycle where the inside layer of the uterus is reabsorbed instead of expelled. However, this would need lots of hereditary mutation to change, and a single change would not achieve it.

Having perfect eyesight and long lifespan is unfeasible because everybody will have an eyesight problem at some stage in their lives. Moreover, longevity is against the nature, except in a few cases, it may happen due to hereditary. Anyway, if you want to delay your eye sight to an older age, and deal with the Alexandria genesis phenomena, you should think about cumin.Cumin is a great remedy for a dozen of health issues like hemorrhoids, constipation or other digestive problems. It can also lower and help people with high blood pressure.

So, in view of the scientific explanations, mentioned above, you can conclude that Alexandria’s genesis does not exist and it cannot exist.

Does intuition play a role in pregnancy and birth

My dictionary defines intuition as “the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning”. Intuition is a handy tool that all humans make use of on occasions, whether it is in raising their children, avoiding a stranger that gives us the creeps, guiding our professional and financial decisions, and even during pregnancy and birth. Intuition is not just for hippies, new age folks, or psychics – though those groups are just fine, too. Intuition is for everyone and before you brush it off, remember that you, too, rely on your intuition at times.

Why write about intuition, and its role in pregnancy and birth? For two reasons. Number One is that every woman uses her intuition during her pregnancy, as well as in daily life. If you have been pregnant and “knew” you were expecting a baby of a certain sex, that was intuition talking. If you “knew” you were pregnant before you started having symptoms, that was intuition talking. And if you “knew” that your baby was fine, or if you “felt” there was something wrong, that was intuition too.

Reason Number Two for writing about intuition is that this handy tool is brushed off all too easily by medical professionals and skeptics who hold that we should rely on modern medicine, and not our intuition, to guide us on the journey of pregnancy and birth. But listening to your intuition and receiving medical care are not, of course, mutually exclusive. We can do both, and often willdo both automatically, because intuition does not require us to flick a switch. It often comes naturally.

When it comes to unassisted homebirth, should we allow intuition to guide us? My own answer is no – not exclusively. I believe in doing research, gathering information about pregnancy and birth, and learning to recognize what are normal occurrences during pregnancy and birth and what are not. Some women choose to combine this process with midwifery or OB care, while others provide their own prenatal care. In either case intuition is not the only tool, but one of several in our toolbox, which we would be wise not to ignore.

What can intuition do for us during birth? Women who are equipped with solid knowledge about birth, its physiology and possible complications still have use for intuition! Those who give birth alone have all the freedom in the world to assume whatever physical position feels best. Intuition can help us get into the position that most easily helps us give birth. Intuition can tell us to get medical care, to push with all our power when we were previously planning to “breathe the baby out”, and to provide the best care to our newborn after she is born – just to name a few examples.

Intuition can fail us, or we can choose not to listen to it. But intuition does have a role to play in pregnancy and birth, just as it does during any other time in life. It could, potentially, save our lives!

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Spanking kids is not a good education

Anyone who is a parent is familiar with the ongoing debate about the merits of spanking children and the damage it can cause, and most people who are not parents know all about this too. The debate is especially relevant where we live because a new law is about to be passed to prevent parents from spanking their children. of course, the traditional family crowd is up in arms about it. Here are my views about spanking children.

I do not particularly support the new law that would ban spanking, because I don’t think our country of residence is in any place to enforce it and I think that focusing on establishing civil liberties rather than taking away one of the few that exists – even if I don’t agree with it – is much more important. Besides, education will help a great deal more than a law to prevent parents from spanking. Having said that, an email being circulated by the pro-spanking lobby is making me sick. The points being made in the email are relevant for all parents, not just those in a country where spanking is about to be banned.

The pro-spanking crowd set out to debunk 10 “myths” about spanking, and to show why spanking is acceptable. I will now debunk the debunking :).

1. “Every spanking, even the most gentle one, leaves long-term negative consequences in children. That is why every physical punishment is abuse.”

No. Not every spanking leaves long-term consequences, as the pro-spankers set out to prove in their rant. But hey, pro-spankers, just because not every spanking leaves marks on a child’s body, that doesn’t mean there are no consequences. Spanking doesn’t have to be traumatic but it can be, and when is not traumatic that doesn’t make it ideal.  This “myth” about spanking, like most of the others still to come, is an extreme view expressed by some. The fact that some hold extreme anti-spanking views doesn’t make the other extreme the correct view.

2. “Violence creates violence. Children who are spanked become violent people.”

No, people who were spanked as children may not turn into people who go about the street killing people with an axe. They are, however, more likely to also spank their own kids.

3. “Rationally induced physical punishment is a stepping stone to out of control physical violence towards a child.”

I don’t think that is true, but that doesn’t make spanking the right choice.

4. “Physical punishments harm a child’s right to bodily integrity.”

WTF? The pro-spanking lobby writes that this is not so: “In difference to physical abuse, physical punishment does not injure a child and does not harm their bodily integrity. Parents punish a child so that they won’t repeat dangerous or aggressive behaviors in the future, so it is for the child’s good. The assumption is that that parents are adults who are informed and able to make decisions, so they know better what is in the child’s best interest than the child does.”

OK, claim the right to want to spank your child because you know better than them. But let’s not kid ourselves, spanking is one of the very definitions of robbing a child of bodily integrity. Do you want to spank? If you are that informed, responsible adult, go on and take full responsibility for it instead of making up excuses.

5. “All civilized countries have laws that ban spanking.”

Indeed, that statement is false. So what? Does that give you the right to spank?

6. “It is always possible to discipline children in ways other than spanking.” 

They say that this is not true. Perhaps they are right. Disciplining in other ways than spanking may not be possible if the parent has lost control (to my shame, I admit that this has happened to me before). It may not be possible if a parent learned nothing but spanking as a disciplinary method in childhood as well. However, I dispute the notion that some behaviors must be handled through spanking. Discipling children depends not on the child’s behavior, but the tools in a parents tool box. Regardless of the behavior.

7. “There is a need for equality between parents and children.”

Here, the pro-spankers pull out the “parents are more experienced in life” card. This is true, but more experience does not mean more rights. Equal rights do not equal letting your child make all the decisions. This is where I differ from most people in this country – I do see my children as equals. Yes, I do have more experience in life and more information and knowledge. I do not have more feelings, needs, and wants. I do not have a bigger right to be treated as a human than they do. More experience means that, unlike my two year-old, who is prone to resolving conflicts with his sister by hitting her, I have other tools.

Children are completely dependent on us, their parents, especially during the early years. Raising children is a privilege, and one that will not last long. Let’s not abuse that privilege by pretending they are lower down the hierarchical ladder than we are, and that we are therefore allowed to do anything we choose to them.

8. “Parents who spank show their powerlessness.”

As in, they come from a place of not knowing what else to do. I agree.  The spankers, on the other hand, say: “Absolutely incorrect. Endless explanations show a lack of power, while spanking shows power. For a child to be polite and socialized, parents need to show their power.”

Come on, now! All parents make their children do stuff they don’t like sometimes. Like, washing hair and going to bed at a reasonable hour, for instance. There are so many other ways to deal with that than spanking. Spanking shows powerlessness, as well as a total lack of creativity.

9. “Parents who spank are sadists taking it out on those who are physically weaker.”

No, says the spanker, when logical arguments don’t work, the parent must show who is boss by spanking. Let me give you a tip, spanker: besides spanking, you can physically remove your child from a situation, use logical consequences, or even use that time-out that most attachment parents disagree with. All are better than spanking.

Perhaps the majority of parents who spank are not sadists at all, but some sure are. And yes, spanking children means taking it out on the physically weaker.

10. “They won’t less us in the European Union unless we pass the anti-spanking law.”

Not true. One point for the spankers. Does that mean spanking is totally acceptable? I didn’t think so, either!

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